Taunt them a bit by telling them they did this to you.
Feel free to seem eager it’s not shameful or humiliating to display your needs in a situation like this. Part of how D/s relationship works is playing along. This may prove more difficult if you are female and your partner is male given they will usually be stronger than you. Maintain control of their hands with one of yours. Pin their arms either above their head or to their sides. Whatever you choose be sure to remember this is not an attack it’s an extension of you laying claim to their body. Even the floor if nothing sturdy is nearby. Against the wall, on the bed, bent over a table or counter, on the couch or table. “This is mine now, what do you think about that?” Or perhaps something like “How are you allowed to have an ass this damn good?” Lean in as you do and say something like. Grope them like you are claiming what you are grabbing. Not like you are trying to be sly about what you are touching. It could be at you, or you could even turn them around so you can get in behind them. You can use it as a handle to gently steer then in the direction you want to look. Stroke their scalp slowly for a bit then take ahold of their hair giving it just a bit of a tug. Grab them by the chin, the sides of the face, or the back of the neck and kiss them like your survival depends upon it.
Be Considerate, and Understand Your Partner’s Needs! They cannot do that if they feel doing so is the same as them failing you. Your partner needs to be comfortable using the safeword. This may be a learning experience but it is absolutely not a mistake. After this you need to comfort your partner making sure this is not seen as a failure. The safeword is the all stop last resort. You may discuss what went wrong but do not attempt to resume. When the safeword is used that means the session is over. The situation may be salvageable or it may be time to end the session. If they start to hesitate or look like they feel cornered then it’s time to stop and discuss what’s going on. You should make an effort to be aware of signs of them being uncomfortable or anxious. Not all problems are so clear cut even for the sub.
This however is not the only thing you should be aware of. Speaking of brakes, you may have heard of the term ‘safeword’ which is the word used to bring things to a complete and immediate stop. When you hear lines like “The submissive holds the real power in a relationship” it’s because a good dominant knows the sub holds the brakes. This may very well mean no second chance. Taking things a step to far can lead to ruining the whole thing for your partner. You can always discuss new boundaries or ask for permission to do more. Just because some acts are going well you don’t get to just decide to take it further to see what happens. When you disrespect those boundaries you disrespect that trust. When your partner hands over control to you it’s a major act of trust. Domination is not about abuse, your goal is not to force your partner beyond their limits. This comfort zone is not a goal for you to overcome. First you and your partner need to discuss these things and define your comfort zone. Most of you may know this already but for those exploring this for the first time may of the things beyond this point run the risk of causing discomfort both emotional and physical. Before We Beginīefore we get to far there are a few things to consider. This way while reading this, just like in the bedroom, you can go only as far as you feel comfortable with and stop. For the purpose of this guide, your safety, and not scaring you away I will start with the most gentle stuff and move on up.
That being said domination can range the entire spectrum of everything sexual from pillow talk to things that could be considered torture in any other context.
It’s a mood not a series of specific tasks. So you want to be the Dom that keeps the Subs crawling back huh? Let’s get right on that!įirst thing to consider is that domination itself is not a specific act but more of a context on how that act is applied.